You’re Single?!
“You’re single?”
“Yup.”
“Why?”
“Because I want to be.”
Cue the puzzled expressions of the people I meet who can’t quite seem to grasp the concept of a young, single, successful girl who actually is NOT currently looking for a relationship. Despite the fact that we are now in the 21st century, it is sometimes difficult for people these days to understand why a woman would actively choose to be single, and as a person with a strong belief in independence and being self-sufficient, I feel I speak for a lot of other ladies in my position when I say that it is possible to have a fully satisfying and happy existence without some sort of romantic presence involved.
Women these days are busy. We work, we go to school, we do internships. We also somehow manage to still have a social life and keep up with growing networks of friends and family. We have a lot to do! It’s not always easy fitting a relationship in on top of all our other priorities and frankly, some of us don’t want to. Let me put this into perspective: I have a cat who might as well be my daughter, and who loves me unconditionally (as long as I keep feeding her and scratching behind her ears on a daily basis). I have a network of friends at home, and in my current city, that I try to see or at least talk to regularly, and I am working towards my professional goals. I am satisfied with my life exactly the way it is right now. I personally don’t feel that I need to be in a relationship in order for my life to be complete.
Another line I hear often is, “Just wait, the right person will come along and convince you.” The problem with that idea, though, is that it implies that every single girl is not single by choice, but because she just hasn’t found the right partner yet. Maybe right now she’s not prepared to be in a relationship, regardless of the potential suitors she may come across. You need to be mentally open to the idea of being in a relationship before you can really commit to one, and right now may not be that time. I am also a firm believer that it’s important to know how to be happy by yourself before you start being happy with somebody else.
I genuinely like being on my own, and there is nothing wrong with that. I know there are other women out there who feel the same way. Honestly, sometimes it’s nice to be selfish. It’s comforting to know that the only person I need to confer with when deciding what to do with my weekend is me. I am perfectly capable of telling myself that no, my butt does not look big in these jeans. Also, I like having my whole entire queen-sized bed to myself.
It is important to remember that being single is not a bad thing. Not every single girl is sad, and just because someone is single does not mean they are unhappy. Yes, there are many single people out there who are not satisfied and are looking for someone to share their life with, but for some staying single is a conscious choice. Being alone is empowering, and having the satisfaction of knowing that I can get by just fine on my own is something that no boyfriend can ever take away from me. We rejoice in the fact that we lead busy, fulfilling lives even without a guaranteed plus one at weddings. Single ladies, let me hear you!
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Love it! You are spot on – being content starts with self and being single gives you the time and freedom to explore who you are. It is a pity but very few people are able to understand and appreciate their state of singleness. Glad there are a few of us out there that are single by choice and proud of it.
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