Mind Over Matter
Your mind is a powerful thing. In fact, it is probably the most powerful thing on our bodies (well, minus my vocal cords, which are a little too powerful at times). Sometimes I literally have to trick my mind and pretend that I like someone or that I like a situation. I have noticed, if you constantly force yourself to feel positively about someone or something you dislike, eventually they won’t seem as bad as they once had.
When I worked at my last job, I hated it. It was a dead end job and I didn’t love the industry. I had just moved to Memphis, had no friends, and my husband worked all of the time. I had gotten myself into quite the doozie of a pity party (and was very disappointed when no one brought me cake to celebrate).
Once I realized it, I allowed myself to keep the party going for one more day and then made myself choose to be positive the next day. I chose to feel positive about the things I liked about my job – my bosses and the community work I was able to do. I chose to feel positive about the fact that I was sitting at home, on the couch on a Friday night while my friends from back home were going out (hey, I didn’t have to dress up!).
I’m not going to sit (type) here and say that once I chose to be positive my life was all rays of sunshine and cupcakes. It wasn’t. There were days that I would go on my lunch break, feeling down and would allow myself to feel sorry for myself for my entire break but then I would force myself feel positive after my break.
I also took the opportunity to build relationships with my coworkers. In fact, when I left that job, the President of the company called my boss to see if there was anything they could do to keep me there.
I’m now in a much better place than I was three years ago. We moved “back home” in February, I now work for my dream company and love my job, I have potential promotions looming in the background, my husband doesn’t work as much, and I have friends galore.
Looking back though, I am grateful for those character building years because it taught me how important it is to have your mind in the right place. If you’re in a dead end job, learn the skills you want to learn in order to go pursue something better in the future. If you’ve just moved somewhere new and don’t know anyone, take time to build relationships with your coworkers or start a blog and meet people from that (yes, I did this).
And at the end of the day, life is too short and goes by too quickly to allow yourself to feel miserable for very long so choose to either do something about it or change your mindset. Mind over matter, ladies. Mind over matter.
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